How to Learn to Say Yes (and Why It Can Change Your Life Abroad)
Moving to a new country is full of firsts: the first coffee you don’t know how to order, the first time you get lost on a street with an impossible name, the first plan you get invited to and don’t know whether to accept.
And right there comes the question that defines much of your experience:
Do you say yes or no?
Sometimes we don’t realize it, but the number of “no’s” we say can make the difference between living in a new country or feeling like you truly belong there.
Step 1: Recognize What Happens When You Always Say “No”
Saying “no” is comfortable. It keeps you in your safe zone—no risks, no nerves, no awkward moments.
But it also takes away many opportunities.
You say “no” to that spontaneous plan from your coworkers.
“No” to the event invitation because you don’t know anyone there.
“No” to practicing the language with locals because you’re afraid to make mistakes.
Over time, those “no’s” become an invisible wall.
You start to feel out of place, as if the city is moving without you.
And worst of all, you begin to think that’s just how things are, when in reality you’re simply avoiding the doors that lead to new experiences.
Step 2: Learn to Say “Yes” (Even When It Scares You)
Saying “yes” doesn’t mean jumping in without thinking—it means allowing yourself to experience life beyond your comfort zone.
The first “yes” might be scary—and that’s okay. But with the second and third, something shifts: you feel more connected, more free, more you.
Start with small steps:
Say yes to a coffee with someone new. Even if you think “it’ll be awkward,” you might be surprised.
Say yes to a local event. You don’t need to know anyone; sometimes just being there is enough.
Say yes to a plan you’d normally skip. You might discover a new place, a new hobby, or a new version of yourself.
Each “yes” brings you closer to feeling part of the place where you live.
And over time, those moments become your best memories.
Step 3: Understand That “Yeses” Create Community
The magic isn’t only in the experiences, but in the people you meet because of them.
When you say “yes,” you open the door to friendships, laughter, and support.
Those connections are what turn an unfamiliar city into a place you can call home.
Not every “yes” will lead to something perfect—some will be weird, some fun, some unforgettable.
But they all teach you something: that living fully is much better than living with what if.
Step 4: Surround Yourself with Spaces That Invite You to Say “Yes”
Sometimes all you need is the right environment to start.
A space where it’s easy to connect, discover events, meet new people, and feel part of something.
And that’s exactly what Crema Social promotes: a community designed for locals and expats to meet, share interests, and live real experiences.
Because every event, conversation, or invitation could be the start of something amazing.
In Summary
Saying “yes” isn’t always easy.
But it’s the first step toward building a life full of stories, people, and moments that truly matter.
So next time someone invites you to something, remember this:
That simple “yes” might just be the beginning of your best chapter in this new country. 🌍✨
